Do you ever get the feeling that you would be better off if you knew how to forget someone? Although love has some undeniably wonderful moments, sometimes it just doesn’t work out between two people. Being on the wrong side of love can often interfere with one’s ability to function through everyday activities, at which point it may be necessary to seek help in learning how to cope and move on.
Your ultimate goal may be to get through the day with little thought of your ex-crush or significant other. In order to feel more like your old self and function as you once did, you first must realize that you can’t actually wipe someone from your thoughts. There will be times when your ex crops up in your mind. The trick is to provide yourself with distractions that will give you some time to heal emotionally. Eventually, thoughts of your ex will be few and far between; and those times when they do come to mind, it won’t hurt as badly.
Take a look below at a few ways that you can help yourself cope and eventually discover how to forget someone.
Like the plague, you need to avoid negativity and being lonely. Don’t misunderstand – having “you” time is definitely acceptable, but what you want to avoid is inadvertently becoming a recluse. The healthiest way to keep your chin up is to spend time with friends and family. It can be easy to give in to the feeling of not wanting to be around others. It takes a lot of energy to put on a happy face, especially when you’re feeling distracted and depressed. Spending time with others is an important part of the healing process, however. Even if you don’t really feel like catching a movie with your friends, forcing yourself to get out there and spend time with the people that love you unconditionally will help restore your confidence. Besides, you might just end up having a good time! Adding happy recollections to your memory will give you more positive things to recall which can serve as a mood boost when you’re feeling down.
Take Up a New or Renewed Hobby
Learning how to forget someone that you love can be a bit easier if you have something new or enjoyable to distract your mind. You probably know what it’s like to lose yourself in something really fun, be it a new video game, a book, or music. When you are able to do something that you love, you don’t have to concentrate so much on avoiding your ex. Whether you like fishing, writing, playing an instrument, dancing, swimming, playing baseball, or even selling flea market goodies on eBay – pursue these positive activities and eventually you will realize that you can have a good time without your ex. Life is worth making the most of and you certainly don’t want to miss out on the fun of a good hobby!
Fill the Void with a Pet
If this is a plausible option for you, then it might be just the thing to ease you through the first few stages of discovering how to forget someone. Get a puppy, a cat, or another pet that you’ve always wanted that you can share some of that unspent devotion with. Even if your heart has been broken, you have a lot of love left to give and sometimes sharing that love with a pet can help you appreciate your own capacity for caring. Besides, having a pet can bring on a welcome change in routine that will trick your brain into concentrating on new and more important things.
Keep a Diary or Journal
Keeping a diary or journal about your everyday life (frustrations and happy moments) is an excellent therapeutic technique. Sometimes it can be difficult to express your true thoughts to someone – even your closest friend. Pen and paper can’t judge you and yet you can still get a similar sense or release just by getting things off your chest.
Get Regular Physical Activity
Getting (or keeping) your body in shape is a great distraction as well as an excellent self-esteem booster. Physical exercise can also promote higher levels of positive chemicals in the brain that actually make you feel happier. Even if you aren’t necessarily feeling depressed, the need to get someone off your mind can be fulfilled by allowing your mind to concentrate on feeling the burn and satisfaction of a good workout, such as running, swimming, or kickboxing. If these activities really aren’t your style or if you just prefer something a little more relaxing, you might want to try Pilates or yoga, which are excellent workouts that take a slower pace and allow you to clear your mind while you stretch and tone your muscles.
Obviously, it is unreasonable to think that you will be able to forget someone overnight. In the end, it takes time to heal, but resuming your everyday life and introducing new projects and activities to distract your brain will help buy the time you need to recover. Eventually, you will find that you don’t have to try as hard to get through each day and the pain and frustration will also fade.